Tough one. People often make one child a joint owner of their checking or other accounts, for convenience it's a poor man's power of attorney. If your father didn't really intend the joint checking account to be a gift to one child if the plan, otherwise, is "all to my children equally" then arguably the checking account was part of the estate, was used to pay bills, it's all good, don't pay the money back. If your father intended a gift, but the PR didn't know, it's still the PR screwing up; don't pay the money back. On the other hand, if this is going to mean more legal bills, and if it will blow your family up, and if it doesn't hurt you financially too much, maybe the better idea is to pay it back into the estate.
Answered on Aug 09th, 2013 at 7:23 PM