how can I go about starting to recive my half of my exhusband 401K thats in my devoice so please tell me what I need to do to start reciveing it.

As a general matter, you collect a share of your husband's pension following divorce by obtaining a so-called "qualified domestic relations order," or "QDRO," from the court that directs the trustee of the retirement plan to make payment to you. Your attorney can assist you in obtaining such an order,