Can I sue for defamation of charater if I was video taped having sex with my boyfriend?

I believe you have a strong case, but also have some reservations.  I can think of a range of state law violations, and likely some violations of Federal law as well, that stem from a clandestine recording of you having sexual relations without your knowledge, and later dissemination of that tape.  I would clearly need to research it more to provide you with a definitive answer.  The problem you will have is not having a good case, where a jury will likely give you some serious money, but rather from whom you can collect.  If this person is independently wealthily, or owns a home or other assets, you could collect from them or from, potentially, some of their insurance policies.  If it is just a local guy, with no real assets except his Ford Escort hatchback, you can get a big verdict, but have no way to get paid any money.  Maybe you can email me with some more information. Bob Keach bobkeach@keachlawfirm.com