What are my legal options for stopping ex boyfriend from cyber stalking me?

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Hello, I am having an issue with an ex boyfriend of mine who I have been separated from for three years and some months. During our relationship he was very controlling, aggressive and violent. He also was extremely manipulative. He has been somewhat stalking me online but he is doing it in a way that keeps it low key.he has sent me multiple Freind requests on facebook since fall 2010 until now.  I have kept all the emails of requests and taken screenshots except for the first attempt when he actually wrote a lengthy message. I deleted it hoping he would respect my wishes. My mom contacted him via telephone at his workplace (which I found on his official Facebook) so that he may stop after a hostile friend request. He had tried adding me and my new boyfriend from a false profile with an angry message attached on the page. I have a screenshot of that as well as the Facebook email. He admitted to the other requests but lied to my mother, telling her he only wanted to obtain items left at my place. After that he stopped for about 7 months but was still checking my tumblr and Facebook like page (which have trackers and insights on them). Those profiles are my professional sites so they don\'t have personal Information. He sent me another request last night and I also took note of it. I am scared for my life because he knows where me and my mother live and he is blatantly disregarding my requests. I am not sure why he wants access to my personal profile and it worries me. He has also tried hacking my formspring account even after deactivation but was unsuccessful. Is there anything I can legally do?

Gregory Crain · Answer

File harassment charges.

Michael J. Breczinski · Answer

1. Report him to the police.

2. Report him to Facebook.

3. Get a restraining order.

Steven Alpers · Answer

I would try reporting him to the police and see if they will help. Otherwise, probably an injunction against domestic harassment. If he violates, the court could put him in jail.

Leonard A. Kaanta · Answer

Get a Preonal Protection Order for stalking against him.

Mark Smith · Answer

Go to Superior Court and obtain a restraining order.

Larry Dunn · Answer

While not a question regarding criminal defense, a person can and should, seek a restraining order to protect against violence. There are victim's advocates at the courthouse who can assist in the procedure. A restraining order can prohibit communication by any means and result in arrests for violations.

Jeffery Lebeau · Answer

You can seek a restraining order to keep him from contacting you.

Brian Wanerman · Answer

You could go to court and request a court order. But, the court would only likely issue one if there was a serious threat. Since you say he was only "sort of" cyber stalking you, that might not rise to the level where the court would consider restricting your ex-boyfriend's liberty, especially his speech. Depending on your jurisdiction and the details, what he's doing might constitute criminal harassment or one of several civil wrongs. Consult the District Attorney's office about the former and a civil attorney about the latter.

Mark R. Thiessen · Answer

Go to the police and file a report.  The Police will then contact the DA.

Stephen Freeborn · Answer

Contact the police and file out a criminal report. They will investigate. If evidence is sufficient, he could be charged with stalking. You can also go to court and seek out a civil anti-harassment order.

Ryan Berman · Answer

Yes, you can apply for a personal protection order, and if he tries contacting you after that, he can be arrested. Also, depending on the messages and circumstances, he could be in violation of the stalking statute, and could be charged with that now.

Joseph Dane · Answer

You have two options: file a police report for stalking or try for a civil restraining order.  For stalking, they have to prove a course of conduct taken as threatening. Given your attempts to get him to stop, it is entirely reasonable that you're afraid. Bring all the documentation to the police to discuss filing a report.  A civil restraining order is something you can pursue in your own (with of without a lawyer's assistance). If granted, the judge will dictate the terms of the no contact order. Any violation could result in criminal charges being filed.

Dennis Roberts · Answer

Get a restraining order. Also, go see the DA as this is a crime.

James Osak · Answer

Contact the police. Try a PPO and let him explain to a judge WHY he is doing those things.

Jared Altman · Answer

You can try going to the police.

Elizabeth Zwiebel · Answer

You could apply for PFA - Protection From Abuse Order.  Violation of this results in jail time.

Timothy Klisz · Answer

No. There are no laws broken and I doubt the police would consider it stalking to make a case against him. You can certainly check with the local police to see.

Jennifer Leigh Gottschalk · Answer

You can sign a criminal harassment complaint against him.

Leonard Harden · Answer

Social media is a growing problem. If the ex has not threatened you or violated RSA 173-B or 631 then you likely can not get a restraining order. I believe you can set privacy controls of FB.  Do not friend him and ignore him.

Terry Nelson · Answer

Try to file a police report of a crime, and try to file for a civil restraining order.

James Schoenberger · Answer

Yes. You should obtain an anti-harrasment order.

Michael Palumbo · Answer

1)Block him  2)Report him to the police for the attempted hacking.

Stuart Nachbar · Answer

Go to the police w/ all the evidence and get an order of protection.  I   think that they can do this for computers as well.

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