Will I be breaking the restraining order if I contact the person it is against?

If he is restrained from contacting you, then you will not be committing a crime by contacting him. But, he will by talking with you. If you want to contact him, you need to get the RO changed by the court first. Sometimes, you need to fill out a form at the DA's office. At this point, it seems like you want to have contact via phone, internet but not face to face. Many judges will allow this. If he violates the RO, he goes back to jail with additional charges and a higher bond. Wait until the judge changes it. You will probably need to appear in court in addition to filing a written request to change the RO.

Technically, the Court has no jurisdiction to punish you. The restraining order applies to him. However, you may be putting him at risk since he is not allowed to talk to you.