How can I get domestic violence charges against my ex dismissed?

During a dispute where I was reportedly hysterical (I do not remember I was very drunk at the time) my friend restrained me from harming myself. He called the police for assistance, but was arrested on domestic battery charges because of a bite mark on my chest. This mark may have been given during a consensual intimate encounter. I have never experienced violence or aggression outside of consensual encounters with this person and fear this is a runaway train of misunderstandings taken out of my hands by the legal system. How can I help get these charges dismissed? I have not been subpoenaed and he has (obviously) requested I do not contact him or speak to him at all. He has obtained counsel that has not contacted me. He also threatened to counter file battery charges to get even for the issue. I did not file these charges so I cannot simply dismiss them. I am at a complete loss for what I can do to help the situation; I do not believe he deserves the charge, but every time I've followed up with the police they treat me like I'm suffering from Battered Woman's Syndrome and I fear I am only making the situation worse. I have asked a lawyer what to do; he says we cannot do anything until I am served something, then we can react. At this point the court date is in 8 days and I feel like I should have been notified of something at this point. I don't want to let time continue to just pass by because it will be at my ex's expense if I don't act on something I should be acting on. Please advise.