Is it possible that the TRO can be dismissed and send us both to therapy?

My wife has a restraining order against me claiming that I hit her which I never did. I do admit that I screamed at her and yelled at her but I never ever and will never hit her at all. I have court on the 31. I'm scared that I might lose her. I don't want that. I don't want to divorce her. I would like to work things out. She left from her job with the police. I have never been arrested nor do I have a criminal record. I have a clean record. They want to send me to a battered prog which I don't agree but I do admit I have an anger problem. However, I will like to ask the judge if he can send us to therapy. I won't be able to get a job with the restraining order on me.