If you do not want to deal with the police, you and your son can tell them so. If you unequivocally tell the police you refuse to speak with them, and say "I want a lawyer," they have to stop talking to you. As far as the search of the ipod goes, the police need a warrant to search a cell phone, so it sounds like someone consented to allowing the police to look at the iphone. Just like before, you are legally entitled to refuse to cooperate with the police, and you don't need to provide any reason whatsoever.
Also, it is very important that you not disucss this with your son. If your son needs to talk about this with anyone, it should be with a lawyer, who cannot be forced to testify as to what was said later on.
Answered on Jul 03rd, 2014 at 7:34 PM