Not sure what my options are please see below

I have an attorney but I'm not thrilled how it is being handled, my attorney dosent communicate with me much and often ignores me till the day of court which leaves me to not know what to expect. I text my attorney but often they go unanswered. My ex fiancee wants jail time, I was told last week that I was gonna be given a plea deal to do probation and 30 days in jail, my ex fiancee and I have a consent agreement we both agreed upon for the next 5 years. And I have had no contact with her since this litigation started in early October, last Thursday my ex fiancee made contact with me and sent me a friend request on Facebook with the exact time and date with her name and picture attached, I sent it to my attorney who said they would present it to the judge and "see what happens" wouldn't this be grounds for dismissal? Or a lesser sentence. Clearly my ex fiancee is not bothered by me as much as she claims if she is willing to go that far as to friend request me, it's a game to her.