Should i have a lawyer at my Bench Trial in Magistrate Court for a CDV 1st off ? My wife made a hasty call to 911 and wants all charges droped.

Having been a prosecutor who primarily did CDV cases, I can tell you that, yes, you should have a lawyer with you when you go to trial.  As a prosecutor, he/she may be required by the boss to try cases even when the victim does not want to prosecute the case.  Also, a jury trial may be the way to go, depending on the circumstances, and a lawyer can help you with that.  If you are convicted, you lose your right to carry a firearm, which for some is a big deal.  It can also affect your job depending on what you do.  It is in magistrate court, but don't take this case lightly.