Harassment is defined however the victim says it is. It is in the eye of the beholder, reasonably defined as whatever is done to annoy, threaten, etc.
The ONLY specific advice you should expect to get from here or elsewhere is to exercise your 5th Amendment rights to SHUT UP, and hire an attorney to speak for you.
If the victim is simply seeking a restraining order, you have the right to oppose it in court, by timely filing appropriate pleadings and attending the hearing to argue against it. You should do so, because a restraining order has negative consequences on your record similar to a felony conviction. You lose your firearms rights, and most employers will view you as a potential problem.
If the victim is pressing criminal charges, you face potential jail time, and most police and prosecutors will happily tell you that 95% of people convict themselves by trying to be 'helpful and cooperative'. There is no magic wand to make this go away. Prosecutors don't take the time to research, prepare and file charges just to drop them. So, if they file, youd better take it seriously. In either case, unless you know how to effectively represent yourself in court, hire an attorney who does. If this is in SoCAL, and youre serious about hiring counsel, feel free to contact me.
Answered on Feb 07th, 2011 at 11:58 AM