I have an Order of protection against me for harassment,this person owes me thousands of dollars.How can I collect if Im not suppose to talk to her?

Hi, I was seeing this girl for close to a year a half.She would tell me how much she loved me and asked me to marry her twice..In October I got her a car using my credit.I was paying her car payments and car insurance for the past 3 months because she lost her job..Now we are broken up because she was cheating on me with 3 other guys to pay her bills..This was going on for the last 3 months...Her ex husband had called me and told me he got herpes from her and she Lied about everything to me. Now she has a order of Protection against me because of 2-3 text messages I sent her wishing she gets cancer..My question is how can I get her to pay back the money I laid out for the car and also my credits ruin for the next 7-10 years because the band is repoing the car.. what can I do??