Can I dismiss my attorney and do my own facts for the judge on the assets?

Look for a paralegal in your area to help you. You should never hire an attorney who is friends with the other side. Borrow money and find another attorney to advise you or use a paralegal.

I do not know what is happening in your case, but most attorneys do the best for their clients, including delivering bad news when they know from experience that the case won't go the way the client hopes. If your attorney is truly not acting or advising in your best interest, you should change attorneys or represent yourself. Representing yourself can be very tricky in court,as you are not familiar with all the rules of evidence and the weight of certain evidence versus other evidence. There are attorneys that you can hire solely to do your paperwork, but trial paperwork can take a while, especially if they aren't already familiar with your entire case. Good luck to you.