Can I sue the woman my husband abandoned my family as she was previously his employer and now refuses to pay/hire him and help with child support.?

For the pas year my husband claimed he could find no employment while living free under the home of the woman he left me for. She is EXTREMELY wealthy and was our main source of income before they started their affair etc. She is enabling my husbands irresponsibility toward contributing financial support toward his family. She is paying for his attorney with her deep pockets while I struggle to support my two children with special needs. I finally lost my job because I was stretched too thin and my health is becoming affected. All lawyers I've met tell me that the court doesn't care about the emotional side of divorce i.e. me marrying a jerk who took the easy way out and left me for a women who lives in an ivory castle with money to burn yet I can ill afford to hire a lawyer and find my husband who is trying to take half of our very small assets and will not pay his fair share of child support. Needless to say, they are both dysfunctional adults.