How do I find out if I am still married?

I would check with the courts of the counties surrounding his last known address to see if he has filed for dissolution. If not you could file for dissolution in the county where you live and if he cannot be found he can be served by publication.

Does your husband know where you have been. You would have to have been served notice of a divorce proceeding for your husband to have divorced you. If you want a divorce, you could file and publish a notice of service if you cannot find your ex.

The county clerks maintain the records so you would have to know where the case was filed. You should have been served with papers in order for him to get any orders including a property division.

Second question first. It will cost you something. First question second: You can file divorce papers. After you have made good faith efforts to find and serve him but cannot, you can file a request with the court to have him served by publication in the city of his last known residence. This will cost to publish in the newspaper in that town. You will undoubtedly need the assistance of an attorney or paralegal to guide you through this process. Good luck.