how do you get out of a horrible marraige with no money until i somehow make him sell the house

You can apply to the court for relief before the divorce is granted, and usually they will order support for you and any children you may have.  The assets you own will have to be divided and if that means dividing the house, then the court will order that too.  Division of the assets has to be equitable, and your husband would have the opportunity to buy out your interest in the house.  Of course, distribution of assets also depends on whether or not you have signed a prenuptial agrement.