How often do couples tear up clothes for revenge

I presume you tore up your wife’s clothing because you felt justified, after concluding that she was cheating on you. The simple answer is that tearing up someone else’s clothing is not acceptable and could give rise to that person filing a domestic violence complaint against you or asking a divorce court to impose sanctions against you for the cost of the damaged clothing in a divorce matter. Hopefully, you are concluding that it is unacceptable to destroy her clothing because of your anger ( or for any other reason). If she has cheated on you, then you need to decide if you and she still want to work through this infidelity to try and save the marriage. Not every act of infidelity requires a marriage to end. It means that you and she are at a crossroad and both of you need to decide how much the marriage means to the 2 of you and whether its worth trying to save. As to your spouse cheating on you, I have no idea as to why it occurred, but in most cases, its because something went wrong between the 2 of you. Simple example is where you are working long hours and she is lonely and when you come home, you are angry, frustrated with issues from work and distant. After tme, that loneliness can become overwhelming and maybe she felt that you simply did not care about her sexually any longer. Sorry.... but I dont know your life or what occurred to cause your spouse to cheat but most often, its not a simple. If you cannot forgive her for her actions or if the 2 of you are not equally committed to working on rebuilding the relationship and the trust, then the solution is to divorce.