Before you do anything else, research 8 to 10 divorce attorneys (try to start with 8 to 10 good attorneys as opposed to just any old attorneys there is an overabundance of lawyers currently on the market, and many of them claim to be divorce attorneys because he can't think of anything better to do). You have a golden opportunity to take control of your divorce situation, but only if you play your cards right and right from the beginning. The good news about alimony for you, is that your wife has a job, which will make a claim for alimony weaker than they would be had she been a homemaker on employed outside the home. You have also been married for a relatively short period of time compared to couples who have been married for 20 years or more. Both of these things work in your favor. You are also six years away from retirement, a fact that you should play up when discussing alimony, whether it's with your wife or with the court. You need to be able to prove that you only have about six years of good working time left in you, and thus at most six years of ability to pay alimony left. Finally, because there is a 12 year gap in your ages, with your wife being 12 years your junior, that makes it harder for her to claim that she is and will be financially dependent upon you. I am sorry that you are getting divorced. Truly. But if you have determined the divorce is where you are headed, do it right now. The longer you stay married, the worse your alimony exposure will be and the harder it will be to argue against alimony or a short period of alimony. if you think your divorce will be or can be inexpensive, you are a damn fool. Please do the smart thing and realize that you will have to spend money to save money on the alimony front and in other areas of your divorce. Now is the time to invest in the best legal representation you can afford. High quality legal representation will more than pay for itself. Your case will not be an easy one, although it will not be as hard as others I have seen if and only if you start laying the groundwork now and utilize the services of an excellent divorce attorney to ensure you make no missteps and present your arguments persuasively.
Answered on Jan 02nd, 2014 at 8:22 AM