I feel the judge in my divorce case is partial to the plaintiff and is treating me unfairly in a biased manner. How can I request a new judge ?

I am the non-monied spouse of "male" gender in what is a "reverse discrimination divorce case". My wife cheated, filed for divorce, fabricated by lies. NY it doesn't matter as it is a no-fault state. My rights were crushed by the judge at the first prelim as I was Pro-se, judge had clear bias when I requested adjournment for attorney, judge denied request and made me represent myself, thus forcing urgency to hire an attorney very quickly. The attorney hired turned out to be awful, unethical, and mistake prone, complaining about having too many clients. The attorney refused to argue the motion they wrote for relief and counsel fees instead making a motion to withdrawal in middle of the motion bringing necessary relief to continue. The judge allowed opposing counsel to remain in court room and participate in a motion that was client attorney privileged ?! and sided with my bad attorney leaving me no counsel and no $ to hire new. How can I request Judge to be removed and get new counsel ?