I have a controlling husband. I have asked for a divorce, but he said “No”. The reason is because he has several IRA’s he doesn’t want to split.

Getting a divorce is your legal right in Michigan. I am not a divorce attorney so I can only make the following suggestions- Marital property is defined by property gained during the course of the marriage that is not subject to a prenuptual agreement. If you don't have a prenup agreement, you should be able to find excellent representation for your matter. Under Michigan law, as part of the division of the assets all attorney fees must be paid. Given the dollars involved, you need a higher end representation. I know several lawyers in SE Michigan but, if you are not there, I would suggest networking through the state bar association's lawyer referral. Best of luck to you.