Married 35 years and getting a divorce. Can we make our spouse sell personal property if it was purchased during the marriage and our money was used?

No, you cannot make the other party sell personal property. With a marriage of this length, you would be well-advised to speak with an attorney to assure that you receive an equitable distribution of the marital assets. For instance, is spousal support going to be awarded? If so, how much and for how long? This one issue alone could account for tens of thousands of dollars over the course of time. Please feel free to reach out to me if you would like to discuss your situation.