My wife and I have been seperated for a year. I live in Virginia she is living in our house in Mt. Laurel NJ

You should try to put your agreement in writing, and both sign it.  You can always file for no fault divorce, and attach the agreement to the complaint for divorce to show that everything is already distributed and decided.  You can go to the NJ Judiciary website and look for the pro se(representing yourself) forms for family law and matrimonial cases. Good luck !