seperated for36years but was married less than one year

You could probably do this yourself.  Look on the New Jersey Judiciary website and get the "pro se packet" for filing without a lawyer.  There will be no assets to divide.  You wll have to complete the forms, file, serve a copy on your spouse, and then wait the required time and go to court for a very brief hearing.  Your soon to be ex does not need to appear, and does not need to do anything.