What am i required to give my spouse until divorce is final?

I had a place on base for my family here in AZ. I was paying for a place off base out of pocket. My wife takes my kids back to NY without me knowing and expects me to pay for her belongings to be sent back. I had been tranfering her money but asked her for her bank account info. She will not give it to me. I will western Union her money to prove i have been supporting them. But I don't want to just remove her off the account we share if i can get into trouble. If anything i will just get a seperate account. Besides any funds placed in there is from me she is not working.