What can I do about my wife if I take care of everything and she doesn't help out?

Hello, I am really lost here. I am in the military and married with kids and sole provider for the family even though my wife has her own business. The only time she goes out and does grocery shopping in the house is for her business and I absolutely have no problem with that, since I am making enough to support us. I am the only one who does the shopping/groceries that everybody in the house lives on. I am not asking for empathy I just need some advice. I do everything for my family. 1- She does the laundry - not without complains (I know that is common) and cannot even say anything about cooking. 2- She kept herself to herself - I am healthy and need my woman, but whenever the time comes that's when she complains about problems. 3- I am deployed and prior to that she convinced me to take the kids to her mother for a vacation in different state. 4- She left the home that I am paying for from my check (It's a contract so cannot cancel) because her business slowed down. I am still the one paying for everything. 5- I always keep in touch with her, but she never calls or whenever she does is because she is broke. Lastly I am sending her money every month, as well as our kids every month to pay for their rent and living expenses. Recently she asked for money to rent a bigger place. I told her I cannot afford it and it's hail on me and I should leave her alone, never call her again. I respect her need to go and get her own, but if I do everything, she should sacrifice something. What can I do? Am I expecting too much? I really love her but "she doesn't love and hate me" the emotional damage she is causing is becoming unbearable. I really love her but this is too much..