What happens if divorce petition languishes for 10 years and what do I do to get support back?

My wife filed a divorce petition in December 2003. The paperwork is very shoddy, handwritten in some places and signed by the attorney in most places, but not signed on the attorney fees section. I never knew the papers existed. She never served me. In August, 2013, I filed for divorce and effected service in December. Her old filing soon came to light and I found out that, after 10 years, with no service, the clerk having shredded the file and reduced it to microfiche, the case had never been dismissed. Of course, I moved to have it dismissed, but she perjured herself and argued that I had been served in 2003, but that we agreed verbally not to pursue the case until our daughter turned 18, which would be in 2017. Despite this unbelievable set of facts, the court denied my motion but made my case the lead case. I have since spoken with her attorney and he adamantly says that my wife is wrong, that I was never served and that he will so declare or appear as a witness on the issue should I ever need him to. The attorney, early on, demanded that my wife substitute him out and she did. I am the "out" spouse. I have raised our daughter alone here relying on my wife's generosity for 100% support for myself and my daughter for these 11 years. The judge has been accommodating thus far. With an RFO for support and attorney fees looming (continued for 90 days to June 20) for 5 months, my wife has cut 90% of support and my daughter and I now live on food stamps, some and loans from friends. All of our cash went to attorney fees and a forensic accountant who has produced nothing useful thus far. My wife, over these 5 months, has steadily become broke. Even though my research 8 months ago located some $10,000,000.00 in real estate and some 30+ bank accounts in many different names or fictitious businesses and in a dozen different banks.