What should I do if we haven’t filed for divorce?

Get yourself into a dissolution filing. Tell any creditors that you are in? a divorce if asked about his debts. He may only owe $1.300. You need to run the numbers to confirm or figure out what he owes. Obviously you may have to downsize your expenses. This is unfair. But he has the right to change his status, but must support his children. I sounds like both of your are working, so he probably does not owe maintenance (alimony.) He might have to pay some attorney fees. A temporary order hearing deciding what each of owes during the waiting period will clarify this. Obviously you want him to pay his bills he has been racking up without your knowledge. YOU need either a consulting attorney who will help you get the paperwork done and explain more than I can her or need to get an attorney. A consulting attorney does not represent you, you represent yourself, but at least you get solid answers and get told what to do exactly and how to present you case to the court commissioner.

Talk to your base's Legal Assistance attorney ASAP. You may need a private attorney but the LA JAGC is a good place to start.

The smart option for you is to file for divorce. You are responsible for debt accrued during the marriage so you want to file as soon as possible before he racks up anymore debt. My understanding of the military is that he will be responsible for payments to you for child support. You can also ask the court in your paperwork to be the primary custodian and that you be given the children while you deploy. Your best bet is to get to an attorney quickly and file for divorce.

File for a divorce immediately and let a divorce court sort it out. Keep your commanding officer informed. His actions could reflect negatively on his career in the military.

From what you have stated, if you are in Florida or claim residency in Florida, you really need to consult with an attorney and possibly file for divorce. You may also want to talk with his commander if he is refusing to assist you and the children financially.

The smart option is to file for divorce as soon as possible. In Idaho, half those debts are yours until you get divorced. It may be different in other states. So, once the divorce happens, he will probably be responsible for ? of day care, medical bills, etc but will have to pay child support. Of course, if you are deployed, he will have the children and you may have to pay child support for that time period. It is complicated, but with a little planning, I believe all of the issues can be addressed.

Your smartest option is to get a lawyer, file for divorce and get temporary orders in place, now. Texas has pretty firm guidelines on child support; your husband doesn't get to make his own rules. Good luck.

Seek legal counsel, communicate with you husband, reach an agreement or file for divorce and get some orders in place to protect yourself and your children.

You should file for divorce and ask for temporary orders.