Wife got a non violent restraining order barring me from house and comunicating. She then emptied the house of all of OUR property while i am disputin

It sounds like you are headed for divorce, and you need to file, immediately. Once your wife is served with divorce papers she is prohibited by law from dissipating marital assets. Getting an order of protection vacated may allow you back into your house, but there is no order that a family court judge can issue that will protect your belongings. That can only be done in Supreme Court, in the context of a divorce, where your wife will be required by law to explain and document exactly what she did with all of your jointly-owned belongings- or else compensate you for your half.