It sounds as if you have a number of issues, and it is difficult to answer them all without additional information. It may make sense to speak with an attorney in or around the town where you live to discuss in greater detail. There do appear to be a number of flags and causes for concern, based on what you say here, and I think a conversation with an attorney would be beneficial for you and your family. At that point, you can decide if it makes sense to get the attorney more involved. Good luck going forward.
Answered on Jan 13th, 2012 at 2:35 PM