can you sue someone if they filmed you( while drunk) doing sexually explicit things (also while drunk) then put it on a paid pornagraphy site?

They cannot use your image/voice for commercial purposes without your permission. You have a right of publicity that protects your image/voice from such use. The right of publicity varies from state to state, but websites are generally available from all states so you need to find a state law that protects you and use it to stop them.