I own my home in Bergen County New Jersey. Can I pass ownership to my wife after I die using my deed? How is this done and does it avoid probate?

You can pass the title to your wife after you die if you both own the property as joint tenants with rights of survivorship.  It abbreviated JTWROS.  If a husband and wife own the property as JTWROS its as if together they own 100% of the property and if one dies, the survivor still owns 100%.  The property passes regardless of what the will says, and passes without probate.