It would be advisable that you meet with an experienced estate planning attorney so that you understand your choices.
In CA if you own real estate you would need a Trust to avoid probate for your heirs. In your case it sounds like you wish to keep your property as 'separate property' and, in the event of your death, your property would go to your daughter or to your new wife and daughter. This can be accomplished in a Trust.
With regard to the money in the bank--you may wish to give the bank a beneficiary for that money--you can speak with the bank regarding this.
Answered on Apr 08th, 2014 at 3:59 PM