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Abusive ex is threatening to take full custody if I leave him
Asked on Mar 16th, 2020 on Child Custody - North Carolina
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I left my abusive ex boyfriend who has on record him assaulting me as well as past girlfriends, he is threatening me saying If I don’t want to be with him then he will “spend as much money” as it takes to take sole custody. I have texts of him refusing any joint custody and believe he is doing this to try and get back at me and force me to be in a relationship with him. He has extreme anger and violence issues as well as bad mental health problems as well. What can I do to help my case. I do have recording of him saying all of this as well. I am only 2 months pregnant at this time and he has assaulted me while I’ve been pregnant and that is my reasoning for leaving him because I worry about the safety of my child.
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It sounds like you may have grounds for a domestic violence protective order (also known as a 50-B or DVPO). If you have been assaulted or threatened recently, you may even be able to obtain a temporary restraining order until your case can be heard with the ex present. One important thing in these cases is that you must sepcifically list the things your ex has done to you, with dates and details that explain what happened. If you do not do this, the court must dismiss your case.
You should contact a local attorney or Legal Aid in your area for assistance. Having legal counsel is important to ensure your evidence is presented to the court in a manner that allows the court to consider it. Things such as text messages and recordings must have proper "foundation" in order to be considered by the court.
Answered on Mar 16th, 2020 at 8:19 AM