Can a defendant Violate their own domestic violence TRO with protection order in place

I was in a domestic violence accusation from my baby mother because she said I wouldn’t let her leave my house and I was given her and I threatened her life so if this is false I was trying to talk to her about the welfare and how we’re gonna share custody over a child without going to court and when I told her I want to hear Social Security number and a copy of birth record and birthcertificate she started freaking out and I live with somebody else and when they said she had to leave she refused to leave and tried to take our son with her and I said leave him I only get to see him a day and a half a day every week and I do support my son and I do partially support her I was there for the The birth of my child I signed all paperwork but she still went to the police after I I said it’s fine if we’re single parent I need certain paperwork for me so I can still provide and help my son even though I don’t get to see him all the time because I work and she lives in a different area