Can a judge grant a divorce without me or my lawyer there ?

It is possible for the petitioner to set and serve a final hearing date, and if the respondent does not appear, the court certainly has the option to move forward. To answer whether they will move forward in your case would require someone to review how exactly you were served, and how exactly you were given notice of the hearing. If it was mailed to your address and you just didn't see it or open it, that would still be notice. I don't wanna read between the lines too much, but your question makes me think you have not necessarily been participating in the divorce, at least not as much as your husband.  Court can hold that against a person, especially in scheduling.