Can I move out of state with my 14 year old daughter that I have primary custody of?

You have an obligation to provide notice to the mother before relocating, using a form that is in the Custody Act. She then has the right to file a request with the court, asking the court to decide whether relocation is in the child's best interests. Normally, in these cases the issue is how the move will affect the other parent's visitation. Since she doesn't have visitation, and apparently hasn't made much progress toward resolving her issues, I would expect that even if she objected, your chances would be very good.