Can I sue my ex-husband to pay for the fees and costs of the divorce?

My ex left me without money, I still have no money and my mom is paying for the divorce. He was abusive and he kept all the money. He still won't give me money we have two children. I have two contempt charges on him. He said if I drop charges he will give me SOME money until support hearing. My mom had to pay for divorce and pay for food and utilities he refuses to pay, he has not paid past due, even while still here. I got shut off notices. My mom paid them too, almost 1000.00. He destroyed this home we lived in. It belongs to my parents. Can they or I make him pay for attorney fees and court costs?