Can my daughters father who is active military in a different state share custody of our 2 year old who has been living in new jersey her hole life?

Thank you for your question.  I know how worried you must be about the custody of your daughter.  The short answer is possibly and you should immediately contact an experienced family law lawyer.  In New Jersey, in all cases involving the custody of a child, the court must always determine the best interests of the child.  Custody is comprised of both “legal” and “physical” custody.  The court must apply several factors to determine the best interests of the child while weighing the rights of both parents as well as the right of the child to continuing and frequent contact with both parents.  The court will consider the distance between the parents’ home, the work responsibilities of both parents, as well as the interaction the child has had with both parents, both before and after the parents’ separation.   It is important to protect your interests and have  an experienced family law lawyer advocate for your interests and ensure that both you and your daughter’s safety are protected.  I hope this information was helpful to you.