Do I have to continue to pay support before a support order is issued?

I presume that you are not represented by a lawyer because, if you were, you should be asking your lawyer this question as long as you trust the lawyer.  If you I head a law firm that devotes its practice exclusively to New Jersey Divorce and Family Law matters. It's all we do. You say that a support order has not yet been issued but will be shortly.  Does that mean that your ex filed a Motion, you responded and you are just waiting for the Court's Decision? You say that you have been giving her a large amount of money each month, but that you have taken a pay cut, and that with her income and the money you give her each month, she takes home more than you.  You ought to consider having a Motion filed to reduce the amount that you are paying her.   You say that she tells you that if you give her less, she will take you to court and get spousal support.  I would need a lot more information from you, in order to intelligently address that issue.   I strongly recommend that you meet as soon as possible with me or another very experienced lawyer who devotes his/her ENTIRE practice to New Jersey Family Law matters, go over your situation in detail, get educated answers to your questions, and obtain expert guidance as to the best course of action. In my opinion, it will be well worth the cost of the meeting. Please feel free to take a look at our Firm Website (www.salvaggiolaw.net), which contains a lot of helpful information. I would be happy to have a brief telephone call with you, to get more information.  There is no charge for that phone call.  Please call 973-455-1220. David F. Salvaggio, Esq.