The most important of anything I could say is this: you need a lawyer. The assault charge (more likely domestic violence) is serious. Do not try to avoid this issue or represent yourself. You also need a lawyer to figure out your other issues. It sounds as if the children were premarital. If that is the case, MAY be that your wife has complete authority over them as the residential and custodial parent. But I do not know those are the facts. See a lawyer. You need legal help in the worst way.
Answered on Jul 11th, 2013 at 8:03 PM