Does truancy prove an "un-fit" parent? My ex-spouse blames very excessive absences on the 14 year old''s asthma and allergies.

I have wanted custody for years and now he is 14. I recently moved back to town. I have asked many times for a court mandated copy of his insurance card to no avail. I cannot afford lawyer''s fees and drive and hour and a half round trip to get him to school as a non-custodial parent. She receives child support, state support and lives unemployed with her mother, but still cannot manage to get him to school or get a handle on his allergy medications as he tells me he is always out. This 41 year old woman will leave him alone at night to hang out with one or the other of her 19 year old boy friends!!! She was under investigation 3 years ago which is why she no longer works for the school system. Her mother retired special ed. and all the board members are buddies. It''s has been really hard for me going to board meetings for his IEP. He is "diagnosed with aspergers and mild autism." Somebody......show me how to get through this and help my son!! Anonyminity appreciated until.