In the absence of a court order, the two of you have joint legal and physical custody of the children -- including the right to determine who associates with them. The only way to change that reality is to file an action -- at least for custody, perhaps for divorce -- and ask for orders as you feel necessary. Obviously, there are more facts involved, and you should schedule a full consultationw with this office or other family law specialists. In the meantime, you should review the information posted here, which will tell you what is, and is not, relevant to a custody determination.
Answered on Sep 03rd, 2018 at 1:36 PM