Ex demanding 50/50 custody for unborn baby

Im sure that this is a very stressful and potentially overwhelming setting for you. At the end of the day though, if this issue is presented to a court, the judge handling the matter is required to focus on what is best for the child. What is best for the child though is not a simple inquiry when he is a baby. The issue will involve his breast-feeding schedule, how long he will be breast feeding, his sleep schedule, etc.  My suggestion is that you talk with your ex about meeting with a mediator or an arbitrator to address this issue. A mediator listens and makes recommendations to both of you on the issues outstanding. If either of you disagree with the recommendations, then either of you are free to file an application with the court thereafter for the court to rule on it. Conversely, an arbitrator is akin to a judge, where he listens and reviews all of the materials similar to a judge and rules and his ruling has the same type of finality as of a judge had rendered a decision. Alternatively, either of you can file an application with the court (once the baby is born) asking the court for a ruling on the parenting time schedule. Presume, that a judge will require both of you to submit your issues to mediation to try and resolve the issue and if not resolved in mediation, then the court will rule on it. The best advice at this point would be to suggest to your ex that instead of the 2 of you fighting over what parenting time plan is best for the child, agree to meet with a lawyer who is an accredited family law mediator to discuss the issues and see if the 2 of you can find a path forward that is reasonable and one that each of you are comfortable with.  If you and your ex would like to meet with one of the partners in Diamond & Diamond to act as a mediator, please contact Angela 973-379-9292 to schedule a joint meeting.