Have a qdro removed

Something is a little "off" regarding your question, but it could just be a matter of terminology.  Specifically, a "QDRO" (i.e., "Qualified Domestic Relations Order") is not needed for distributions from an IRA -- someone may be using incorrect language.  See the information posted at http://qdromasters.com/ and in the articles posted at http://willicklawgroup.com/published-works/. There is just not enough information in your question to figure out the answer -- you will need to consult with a family law specialist, who will need to see the Decree of Divorce, whatever paperwork you have from the actuary and other attorney, the entire plan documents showing balances, deposits and withdrawals at least back to the time of divorce, and any other correspondence, orders, etc. that concern the issue.  We do this all the time, and if we have both the court orders and the relevant background information relating to the plan balance, it usually is not that hard to figure out who needs to do what, and how, to resolve the matter. Finally, if the divorce was in NJ, then any further court actions will also have to be in NJ, but court filings might not be necessary.  If you no longer have an attorney in NJ working on the matter, it might be simplest to consult local counsel in NV; if everything can be done through the plan, rather than the courts, you can do so from here.