How can I find out whether I am divorced or not?

That question may largely depend on where you each were a the time of separation. Each state has different requirements regarding how long you need to live or be a resident there prior to filing (Virginia requires 6 months). Assuming, however, that your wife is the one who filed, that your wife was in Virginia at the time of separation, and filed for divorce in Virginia, you have a couple different options to start: 1) Contact the Circuit Court in the city in which you think that she filed (where she was living, where you last lived together as husband and wife or quite honestly, she could have filed in another city such as Norfolk Virginia where a large percentage of Virginia divorces are handled because of its reputation as the "rocket docket".) 2) Use the Virginia Court system website: http://www.courts.state.va.us/caseinfo/home.html to locate any pleadings that have been filed in the Circuit Court of any city or county in the state.