How can we have our baby and not deal with my mom?

It's a bit hard for meor anyone, I thinkto figure out why two people who are so young are terribly eager to have a baby very soon. I suppose one could guess that you are already pregnant, and want to get through the process without any parents getting angry at you. In any case, it sounds like there is a lot more to the background of this matter than you have written. In any case, your doctor should not tell your parents, unless you permit her or him to do so. (Since both of you are minors, there is some chance the doc will feel obliged to notify your parents.) But who will pay the costs of medical care and lying-in, not to speak of providing for the baby in terms of food, shelter, etc? This is no small matter, and neither one of you should sacrifice your schooling to this idea. If it is not too late, I would urge you to delay getting pregnant until both of you are at least a few years older. If there is some adult whom you trust, and whose judgment is good, talk to him or her. It could be a clergyperson, a teacher, a doctor, or anyone else of good will who can give you goodand matureadvice. Your parents are going to find out about it if you do become pregnant, or are pregnant now. So it may be bestafter you consult with some wise adultto tell them about your plans very soon. Or if you have become pregnant, to tell them as soon as can be. It's like ripping off the bandaid: you have to do it, and will hurt for a bit, but you can't keep it closed up forever.