You have been separated, without a Decree of Separate Maintenance, or a divorce, for 10 years?
Well, the only way we see to obtain the records you seek (presuming your spouse will not provide the information willingly) is to file an action, and subpoena the information from the military.
It sounds like you are many years overdue to have a serious discussion with a family law specialist about many issues -- child custody and support, property and debt division, alimony, and status.
Answered on Dec 09th, 2014 at 3:48 PM