If what you say is supported by the terms of the divorce decree, you have a couple of options to pursue your claims against your exhusband.
If he is not paying the alimony, you can file a motion with the court seeking to hold him in contempt, give you a judgment for the past due, and maybe even award you your attorney fees for filing the motion.
If he has disposed of all of the 401k, despite the orders contained in the decree, then you have an option to either go back in the divorce to reallocate property, or to pursue a separate claim for his "wasting" your share of the retirement. Again, depending on the facts, the court may grant you a judgment for the value, and perhaps award you your attorney fees.
In any event, you should get moving now and not let any more water flow under the bridge. There are time limits involved, so you had best see about hiring an attorney to get your claims moving forward.
Should you want, I could assist you.
David R. Hartiwg
801-486-1715
hartwig-law.com
Answered on Jun 15th, 2016 at 1:56 PM