Frankly, your story as recounted below is a little hard to follow. We do a great deal of culinary pension work, and after the last round of changes to the applicable federal law (ERISA) post-death QDROs are acceptable - in certain circumstances. From the details recounted, I just cannot tell what precisely has or has not been done, what the plan knew, when, and what you are or are not entitled to receive. I'd suggest scanning the original divorce decree, whatever later orders were entered (if no written orders, at least the court minutes) and any correspondence from the plan administrator saying what they will and will not do, and why.
Answered on Feb 10th, 2014 at 11:35 AM