how do I go about getting a divorce

Good morning.  You should start by gathering information regarding income, expenses and assets.  You should create a spreadsheet listing all assets and their approximate values, such as bank accounts, investment accounts, jewelry, real estate, automobiles, retirement accounts, pensions, furniture, and values such as collectibles.  You should copy all bank statements, tax returns, retirement statements.  You should think about whether the kids will reside primarily with one parent and have visitation with the other or whether you and your husband will have equal custody with the kids.  The answer will impact how much child support is paid, if any.  You will also need to consider where you will live after the divorce and how much money you will need and whether alimony is an option.  Most lawyers provide free initial consultations.  I recommend you make a list of questions you have and interview several different lawyers to ascertain whether you want to hire a lawyer and if so, which lawyer is the best fit for you. Divorce can be a complex process to navigate through by yourself.  I wish you the best in beginning a new chapter in your life.  Best regards.